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Stepping Through the Gate to Your New Life
“I always wanted to get into another field where I knew I would be more fulfilled but for some reason I was never able to get past the gate. You empowered me to step through the gate to get to the other side so I could have a more fulfilling and satisfied life.” — comment from a client at the conclusion of an equine-guided coaching session with me For today’s post, I invite you to go on a journey of the mind with me. Imagine yourself standing in the middle of an arid, earthen-colored and perfectly ordinary field. As far as the eye can see, the land is flat, scrubby,…
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Let Horses Be Your Guide
When I first started working as a business development specialist, there were two primary areas that I focused my efforts on: 1) helping people get clear about what they wanted to create and 2) helping them take the actions necessary to create results. By applying problem-solving facilitation techniques, I quickly realized that I could help most people get clear about what they wanted to do, but when it came to implementation many people simply did not have the body for action. With this in mind, I began my search for a better way to help people eliminate the friction of inaction that holds them back. I decided to learn…
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Good grief! How letting go will bring you a new beginning
I recently learned I have atrial fibrillation. As human beings, we are constantly learning. We seek out information on a given topic out of interest (like how to play the guitar) or necessity (like how to maintain a car). All learning has value, but I have found that it is particularly satisfying and valuable when interest and necessity intersect in the process. Learning how to grieve has been that type of learning experience for me. I learned out of necessity when my wife Shirley died of leukemia at 39 years of age and I became a widower with 4 children and my job with a company that I…
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Get the Right Stuff Done – Learn the Powerful ‘Sort and Stack’ Method
What’s on your “to do” list? If you don’t have a written list, take a few moments now to write down everything that you want to get done. Get it out of your mind and onto a piece of paper. Now look at your list. I’m willing to bet the items are quite varied — from simple errands like “pick up the dry cleaning” to more complex projects such as “draft a budget for the kitchen remodel.” You may also feel your list is a mile long and impossible to finish. You are right. And you’re not alone. This comes up frequently in the life-transition coaching I do…
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Stop ‘Shoulding’ on Yourself
I believe that words in and of themselves have no meaning, that people give meanings to words. I also believe that our words, as they relate to the way that we look at things, create moods. Further, I have observed that the moods and emotions created by our words manifest themselves physically in our body and directly affect the action that we take or do not take. We create our own reality by the words we use to describe it. I have listened to a lot of people who, reflecting on their life, express regret about something they did not do. Often they will say, “I…